You are not alone...

A break-up is an experience filled with a plethora of feelings, emotions and triggers.  It is a traumatic event.  Trauma means wounding and therefore, a break-up opens up the wound that we sustained from our earlier years which shows up in the belief that we are  not lovable and that we have to work to justify our existence.   The wound can be healed anytime.  When the wound is open and raw (i.e. like during a break-up), we don't need a lot of touching for it to hurt.   The slightest touch causes us the feeling of being wounded all over again.  That's when we get triggered.  For a trigger to work, there has to be an explosive charge (think weapon).  People who are wounded, are stuck at the stage of development that they were at when they were wounded.   When we talk about growth, transformation & healing, it is great to look at it when you are triggered.  Because when you are triggered, you are experiencing a wound and you have a chance to heal it. 

Trauma informed coaching is a modality that is client led.   As  a trauma recovery coach, I work with  trauma survivors as peer, mentor, guide and educator with the goal of helping them understand their recovery process, reconnect with themselves and the world while using their strengths to build a life they love living.

As a coach, I recognize the unique, complex and specific needs of trauma survivors. Trauma Recovery Coaching is specifically designed to address trauma. The methods, resources and techniques coaches use are tailored to help  clients recover from the aftereffects of trauma. It is the sole focus of our work.

As a Trauma Recovery Coach I do not pathologize the trauma responses my clients have. I don’t label what they are experiencing as wrong or bad. Instead, I recognize that they are having normal reactions to trauma – which are abnormal experiences. I oppose my clients being labeled as disordered or ill because they have experienced trauma and have responded in ways that they believed were in service to their survival. 

Therapists are the trauma surgeons, emergency room personnel and paramedics of the mental health and well being community. Coaches have a fully stocked first aid kit and skills to put it to good use, but they are not physicians.

A coach comes alongside their client to brainstorm, provide information, and examine potential decisions. A therapist can do all of these things, but they often also need to intervene at a deeper level to direct care, prescribe behavior and make choices on behalf of their client. A coach never takes that much control over a client’s life. Guide and encourage, yes. Command direction, never. 

100%! What happens in our sessions stays in our sessions, just like seeing a therapist.

The time that your coaching process will take depends on the complexity of your experience, your goal and your commitment and openness to your healing process.